I have some earth-shattering news to share with all you ladies out there. We are fooling ourselves each and every day with our negative self-talk about weight loss.
You know how it is, every morning you look in the mirror or step on the scale, and the negative thoughts start coming. "I wish I could fit into my 'skinny' pants." "Ugh, my belly is so fat!" "Why oh why did I eat that piece of cheesecake last night?" My own usual thought was: "If only I could lose ten pounds, I would be so much happier."
Guess what ladies? I lost ten pounds. But I'm shocked to realize that losing ten pounds has not made me a bit happier. It has not changed my outlook at work, made me feel uber-confident giving presentations, made me feel more comfortable meeting clients for the first time. I'm not happier in my personal life, more apt to go out late on Friday nights - none of the lies I have told myself over the years are true! There is a bit of a thrill in putting on pants a size smaller than usual, but that thrill lasts just long enough for the next self-destructive thought: "Well, I'm sure I won't be this size for long..."
We need to learn to love ourselves, no matter what our size.